Take Your Birth Experience Into Your Own Hands
I became pregnant in October 2017. I didn’t really have any idea about giving birth, nor what to expect, nor where to go when the big day would be here. It was very busy at the time and saw it as something happening in the future. My partner was not really sure if he wanted to attend the birth. He was unsure what his role would be and how to offer emotional support during my pregnancy.
Meeting the right midwife/ doula changed our whole idea of giving birth, and that we would do it together.
We suddenly understood that this birth is up to us, to make it a special experience, and that if we didn’t say what we wanted, that other people (hospitals, doctors, family members) would make the decisions for us. We realized how important it is that we need to take our child’s birth into our own hands.
I am still hearing stories from hospitals all over Europe and the USA where babies get taken away from the mother after birth. I hear about hospitals that don’t know about skin-to-skin after birth or even after a Cesarean. Mothers get stressed out from midwives and doctors because the birth process is not moving fast enough. This is wrong and it hurts me every time I hear stories like it.
People decide for us and our babies’ own “well being“. What often gets left behind is a mother who is very happy to have her newborn but also very frustrated as she most probably imagined the outcome to be slightly different. And a partner who is still confused what his/her role should have been…
From partners I still hear that they don’t feel integrated enough. They just don’t know what to say anymore, after they asked for the 40th time if she is ok? (She is not!)
You will NEED your partner as your COACH.
Giving birth is a one (two or three?) time experience you will have in your life. Make this a special experience- together with your partner. Your partner makes sure that you will be safe and taken care of, that you can handle the pain and your wishes are met. And I am telling you- your partner will be as busy as you are….
I wish you a happy, healthy pregnancy! If you have any questions or if there is any way I can help make your birth experience more incredible, please let me know!
